I’ve been radio silent thus far on the whole Tiger Woods infidelities but after hearing three ladies in a row comment on the Ryan Seacrest radio show I had to give my feedback. Ladies, if you are seeing a married man, you deserve the pain you get. He will NOT leave his wife for you 99% of the time and for the 1% of you who do get the man to leave his wife, you end up with a man who will definitely cheat on you later. Once a cheater always a cheater. One of the girls who called into Ryan Seacrest’s show the other day was saying she didn’t know her guy was married for a full year (they’ve been dating for 2 years–notes she’s still with him after the revelation). Now that she knows, she is convinced he will eventually leave the wife (yeah right). And my question for her is how can you go an entire year and not know your man is married? Do you never go to his home? Are you so blind that you can’t see the blaring red flags. I had to smile as Seacrest actually gave wise dating advice the entire 1/2 hour I was listening…who knew he knew? Bottom line, if he’s married, end it the second you find out, period. Why be the contributor to the demise of a family and have that on your conscience? Not to mention the fact that you are the one who will lose the most of your own life and future as you waste it on him!

What practical challenge can I leave you with today instead of just berating you? If you’ve found yourself dating a married or otherwise “taken” man, ask yourself why you have found yourself only with men who are unavailable and write about it in your journal. Somewhere inside you know the reason, write it down to bring it to your full consciousness. Even if you’ve been the mistress and tramp (as many wives call you) in the past, you don’t have to be in the future. Love yourself enough to make the changes necessary to attract men who can love you and fully commit…and by that I mean single mean who can commit.