Should She or Shouldn’t She?

DeAnna Pappas is on dangerous ground for her heart on ABC’s Bachelorette. She is most attracted to Graham Bunn. There have yet to be ex-girlfriends of Bunn coming out publicly to say he’s a heartbreaker, yet he’s gone on record that the longest relationship since high school is 4 months long. He’s charismatic, attractive and “cool” with the guys and girls. Who wouldn’t want to hang with him. And he makes DeAnna melt every time she’s near him. So what’s the problem? He can’t commit. He runs away from love over and over. So even though he may be our favorite choice for her for the season, Graham Bunn has the potential of being the biggest heartbreak of DeAnna’s life. My advice to her? Well since whatever her choice is has already been made, it doesn’t matter, but to all my readers who are in the same boat with an incredibly hot non-commiter, pay attention to every word he says. Non-commiting men do reveal their fear and baggage if you’ll only listen to what he says. They may not come out and tell you they have no interest in marriage (although some actually do, so listen to them!) but he will be distant about commitment and tell you enough of his pain to give you the clear warning signs. Plus you will leave feeling totally insecure that you could lose him any moment–pay attention to that feeling. If he holds back from you emotionally or verbally, most likely he has commitment issues. Ask yourself what it is about YOU that is so special that you will be the ONE who can break him of his fear. Rarely does that happen–look at George Clooney who dumped his latest who everyone thought was THE ONE for him. So as much as we all love to see DeAnna with Graham, it is best for her heart that she walk away unless he does some ratical turnaround in the next two weeks, which is unlikely. Besides there are so few moments for them to spend together DURING the show that Graham doesn’t have enough time to prove he will not run right after he wins her heart and even his mom says he’s gone after 4 weeks with any new gal…DeAnna, your heart is on dangerous ground. Shall she be a romantic, live on the edge and choose Graham Bunn, risking being dumped again? Or should she choose a more stable man she has passion for, just not in the heart-pounding chemistry way she has for the uncatchable Graham? My advice would be choose someone else if you genuinely have feeling for another as well as Graham because you will have a much better shot at forever with another. If you just don’t have deep feelings for any of the others, then take the ride and play it out–nothing ventured nothing gain. You just have a 90% chance or higher he will dump you. Here’s to making the right choice for you….whatever that will be. 

Hey all, I’m an Author, Life Coach & Speaker. This is my personal blog aimed at encouraging and equipping women to make better choices so you can live the thrilling life God planned just for you! I write on relationships, dreams, daily life, and life transitions. I’ve written 4 books, including “Finding a Man worth Keeping.” I spent more than a decade as a Hollywood Talent Agent and met my Husband at the Golden Globe Awards then left Tinsel Town for love, marriage and happily ever after.

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